Introverts, because of their listening abilities, have more intense, intimate relationships with their spouses and children.
Grace loves to write commentaries on psycho-cultural and sociocultural dynamics ter their myriad forms.
Introverts Are Not Weird Wackos, Just Different
American society from the 20th century to the beginning of the 21st century prize and respect extroversion. The popular photo of Americans is the glad, outgoing extrovert who is a friendly outgoing person who loves to be ter the go and be surrounded by lots of people. Magazines and other media such spil movies and television shows depict this photo. The underlying theme of many commercials is how to be pleasing to spil many people spil possible. The typical picture of the American child is the popular, gregarious child who has lots of friends.
Extroversion has always bot deified te American society. People view extroverts more positively than they do introverts. Extroverts are people who can be trusted. People are more likely to choose extroverts spil leaders and te other authoritative positions because they represent intelligence and authority. Furthermore, people perceive extroverts spil possessing excellent people and social abilities. Social scientists, especially sociologists and psychologists mandate that man’s national status spil that of a social animal who needs onveranderlijk voeling with people te order to thrive.
Introverts, on the contrary, are viewed more negatively by modern American society. Introverts are seen spil psychotic people who have a personality defect. Until recently, they were derided by people spil weirdos, rearwards, socially challenged, standoffish, abnormal, withdrawn, and other pejorative adjectives. Teachers even considered introverted children to be socially retarded, needing psychological counselling and therapy. Parents, too, are not so reasonable regarding their introverted children. Many times parents are ashamed of their introverted children, wishing that they were more extroverted “like frecuente children are.”
Often, well-meaning and well-intentioned parents harm the self-esteem of introverted children by enrolling him/hier te various activities “te order to meet and socialize with other children” when he/she is more satisfied being alone, reading a book and/or indulging te solitary activities. Thesis are the same parents who force their introverted children to play outside with other children. Many an introvert adult bristle when remembering their childhood which this happens. While they preferred reading and playing ter their rooms, their parents often compelled them to play outside. If they do not wish to play outside, their parents told them to be more like “ordinario children” which oftentimes irrevocably damages their self-worth.
Introverted children should not be coerced to be extroverts. Latest psychological studies demonstrate that introverts are wired and react to the environment differently than extroverts. Ter other words, an introvert cannot be an extrovert. However, this is what many parents of introvert children do. To reiterate, this is wrong. Parents should embrace their introverted children spil they are for they have special gifts.
Introverted teenagers have a very difficult time of it. They are bearing with dual issues of adolescence and introversion. Introverted teenagers are not understood by their peers and their parents. They are often the unpopular ter high schoolgebouw because their personalities are usually diametrically opposite to that of the typical extroverted teenagers who is outgoing and more popular with slew of friends and extracurricular activities. They are usually derided, pitied, and oftentimes avoided by more extroverted classmates because they have different interests.
Ter movies, the introverted tiener is viewed at the outsider, the geek, and/or the weirdo. I shall name two movies spil an example. Te PEGGY SUE GETS MARRIED, the character Richard Norvick is an introvert who is a math and science genius. Ter high schoolgebouw, he wasgoed an unpopular loner who wasgoed ostracized by his more popular classmates. He wasgoed even nicknamed a four-eyed worm by one of the more popular classmates. Te ROMY AND MICHELLE HIGH Schoolgebouw REUNION, Heather Mooney, an introvert, wasgoed totally derided by the more popular classmates ter hier high schoolgebouw. She also wasgoed a very clever science genius who matched to hier own percussionist.
Besides derision from their peers, many introverted teenagers receive little or no support from their parents. Many parents of introverted adolescents view them spil colorless with no personality and compare them to their more extroverted peers. One of my co-workers at a social service agency permanently compared hier introverted daughter te hier teenage years to a more extroverted classmate. This co-worker remarked that hier introverted daughter had very low self-esteem, however, she consistently gloated how this extroverted classmate(now a celebrity) wasgoed so outgoing and participated te schoolgebouw plays, wishing that hier daughter would be like hier.
Introverted teenagers are often not seen spil authoritative and pushy like their more extroverted peers. Introverted teenagers are seldom considered leaders by their peers and teachers alike. I recall ter my high schoolgebouw, the most extroverted teenagers were selected by their peers te authoritative positions te student government even however they were more qualified introverted teenagers. It wasgoed mistakenly assumed that the more talkative person have the abilities to lead which is often is not the case.
Even spil adults, introverts are considered subpar to the extrovert. Because they do not want to indulge te puny and petty conversation, people consider them antisocial and cold. Ter many jobs, introverts are not considered supervisory, management, and executive material because they are deemed too quiet and unobtrusive. Many people ter the workplace have the stereotypical belief that a boss has to be noisy and pushy to motivate employees to produce. Oftentimes, the opposite is true.
Te social situations, introverts are told that “they should go out and socialize more”. Many introverts do socialize, however, they need lots of alone time to recuperate. Conversely, there are introverts who love spending their offtime huis alone either reading or engaging te other solitary hobbies. Contrary to myth, introverts are not timid and do like to interface with people but they also value being alone. Being alone is not an anathema to introverts spil it is to extroverts. Introverts love being alone spil they are very comfy ter their skins. Many introverts consider a volmaakt weekend spil being at huis with a good book and/or listening to a good CD.
Recently, there is a recognition of introversion spil a legitimate personality type. It is about time! There is a greater appreciation, or at least acceptance, of the introvert than it has bot te modern American society. Studies vertoning that introverts are usually more creative and thoughtful than extroverts. Introverts have good empathic and listening abilities than extroverts do not have. Introverts usually do not have to permanently the center of attention that extroverts voorwaarde be. Introverts are usually more self-assured spil they do not have to permanently prove themselves or attempt to overeenkomstig spil extroverts do.
Psychological studies substantiate that 70% of gifted children are introverts. Introverts have other special gifts i.e. being able to think outside the opbergruimte. Psychologist Marti Olsen Laney maintained that introverts usually face life switches such spil old age, retirement, illness, and other life switches lighter than extroverts. Dr. Laney explained that this is because extroverts usually have a quicker life tempo than introverts and they find it difficult to adjust to a slower tempo of life.
Te terms of relationships and friendships, introverts usually have a smaller circle of friends, however, their friendships are often intense and more genuine. Introverts, because of their listening abilities, have more intense, intimate relationships with their spouses and children. Introverts usually do not have relationship and intimate issues because they are not scattered and have the power to concentrate on one thing at a time. Introverts usually value quality overheen quantity ter relationships.
Advice to introverts: Never estimate yourself or your talents. You have more emotional and psychological resources and skill than you know. When people get more involved with introverts, they are usually astonished at what introverts can usually do! It is not the extroverts who necessarily knows the most! Introverts have talents that most people cannot fathom!
Contrary to what people believe, many noted people and celebrities can be classified spil introverts. They include Bill Gates, Microsoft CEO, Warren Buffett, business executive, Clint Eastwood, actor/producer, Meryl Streep, numerous Award Winning actress, Woody Allen, prolific producer, Tom Hanks, prolific, numerous Award Winning actor/producer, the late Charles Bronson, actor, the late Princess Grace of Monaco a/k/a Grace Kelly, Award Winning actress, Candice Bergen, actress, geniuses Michaels Jordan and Jackson, the fine Katherine Hepburn, Award Winning actress, and Michelle Pfeiffer, actress. Introverts are fine and wondrous people and it is about time that they are ultimately appreciated for their own personas.